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Student and Parent Rules. In every martial arts school, there are rules that need to be followed. Otherwise, nothing can be accomplished. Most of the rules date back forever and have been passed down from one generation of instructors to the next. All students should follow instructions given by Instructors in class. You're still talking with the mother of one of your ten-year-old students. As an instructor at a martial arts school, you recognize that working with the parents of .. set a date for your next conversation with them to discuss the child's progress. After teaching kids martial arts classes for the last 14 years, I have seen a wide and then throw them into a class with a poor instructor to student ratio. Really, this is where it all falls apart for most “do-it-at-home parents. There is no SET date for completing each rank level and taking a rank exam.
If you don't like it, vote with your feet and go somewhere else, which, is a suggestion I would endorse. You snuck in while I was posting. There are absolutely other dojos like this and it is also an aberration at least in so much as it's an aberration of the human condition. In other words, if it can happen at work, in a church, or at the Lion's Club meeting it can happen in a dojo.
Despite what we think, sensei really aren't any better or worse than anyone else. If a certain percentage of the population engages in unhealthy behavior then a certain percentage of the sensei will probably be engaged in this same behavior. This applies to the good things as well. So find a good sensei, there are plenty of them out there. I am saddened to hear your story. If you are still tied to him, then perhaps that is a place for you to work on as well. I think kid's classes aside, a WHOLE other issue that we are all adults, and i don't care who is involved with whom.
I have had instructors make passes, i'm a big girl and know how to say 'no thanks'. And there have been instructors i've thought were great and would have liked to know off the mat, but old fashioned feelings about asking men out, as much as hesitency over our instructor-student relationship, held me back. I train seven days a week, so do some instructors, especially in small dojos; sometimes when that's all you meet Singles who train a lot give up a relationship, those in relationships often give up dojo time.
Nice to get both: I know when i've dated men who don't do martial arts they are not thrilled that i do, and hate the time that i put in.
So i say, give the instructors a break. I am less concerned about my personal experience than with discovering that a large number of other students had quit because they felt hit on excessively or been involved with this person, and that many of these people retained highly negative feelings about their experience.
To some degree, I agree, instructors are just people, and their commitment to teaching or to aikido may make it difficult for them to meet people outside the dojo. On the other hand, in at least some dojos, there's an implicit or not-so-implicit "don't talk back to the sensei" rule in place, depending on how rigidly or traditionally the ranking system is enforced.
This leaves less room for negotiation. Anyone who thinks this is just a matter of consenting adults needs to read Sex in the Forbidden Zone: If Aikido teachers were professionals in the mental health, medical, etc. Not only did most Aikido teachers not get any training in how to handle their role as Sensei in relation to members of the opposite sex but in fact most of their own role models were bad!
But in Aikido, no one wants to talk about these issues because so many people at the top are offenders. Often the only people you meet are at the dojo. It may not be optimum but it is certainly understandable when a teacher has a relationship with a student.
But the example mentioned above is far beyond that.
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You have a predatory relationship here with the females in the role of the prey. It is wrong, it is unethical, and it shouldn't be tolerated. What is often the most disturbing is the way in which the other members of the dojo become co-dependent with the teacher's dysfunction. One of my friends is an Aikido teacher who really got himself into trouble with a number of his female students. His wife was in the dojo at the same time. When his relationship with her began to collapse the students all banded around him to "support" him.
People who his wife had thought were her friends basically ostracized her. His inappropriate behavior was not only tolerated by the dojo, it was fully enabled by the dojo. This continued until he found a really wonderful therapist who helped him cop to what he had been up to. He publicly admitted how he had been screwing up, got back together with his wife, and turned himself around completely.
It was precisely at this point that things blew up in the dojo and many of his students left. Not when he was at his worst but at the point where he was getting his act together. All those folks who were all tied into his codependent dysfunction ended up leaving without copping to their own role in the whole thing. People need to not put their teachers up on a pedestal to the extent that they cease to see what is really happening before their eyes.
It does no one any good at all to tolerate behavior on the part of the Sensei that you wouldn't accept anywhere else. This is a very important area of discussion. It doesn't get a lot of attention from the senior people because so many have been guilty at one time or another of behavior that they perhaps now recognize as inappropriate. Or they don't recognize it, which is really scary.
I know from personal experience how easy it is to get caught in the trap. In my own case I was able to get my act together before it caused irreparable damage to the dojo. But you won't find a lot of guys who are going to be very open about this area.
I think that female students need to keep describing these behaviors when they happen and keep this issue in our consciousness until there are no more people acting this way. And the male instructors who have done enough work to recognize these issues for what they are should weigh in in support of these efforts. Increasing awareness and making unacceptable behavior public knowledge, at least within your own community, is the only way in which these things are going to change.
These relation ships should be left out side of the dojo once inside they should be a non issue. Dan Excus any spellng errors I am typing one handed because I broke my finger in class last night Unregistered It has been 13 months since she started and her teacher told us today that she is a leader in her class, helps other students, is a role model and speaks up when she has questions and want to volunteer.
This, from a kindergardener who would shyly, half way raise her hand to participate.
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Setup a Home Dojo. Buy some mats for the space a bonus is to have a roll-up mat that you can easily move, or puzzle mats. Look on craigstlist first to see if you can find some used mats, or get some from GreatMats. Buy some boxing gloves and hand targets for training. You can get by with just square hand targets or focus mitts. Later on, you might opt for a freestanding bag or punching bag, along with a larger kick shield or tombstone.
Heck, you can get by with just a dense couch cushion at first. Set Up a Training Schedule. If you set home karate class at 6: Make your training real, and your child will respect it as well.
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Of course, if your child is actually working toward earning a real belt through a legitimate school, then the next belt is a huge goal. Along the way, earning stripes or even patches can be very helpful. If you are creating your own training program at home, use prizes, points, stickers, or something else to make it fun, and reward progress. Engage the Whole Family. Ask mom to do class with you and the kids one night. Also, as a bonus, your child will get to practice with people of different shapes and sizes.
If you always have the exact same training partner, you get used to their body size, speed, and power. To develop real skills, you need to have a lot of training variance. Encourage, motivate, point out mistakes with a positive tonegive high fives, and push your child to do better. Your child should actually feel like you switched gears, and you are now Coach Daddy, not just Daddy for example. So, in some ways, you want to differentiate your attitude, while still maintaining that positive love and support for your child.
This is one of the challenges of teaching your child at home. But, if you are a homeschool parent already, then this would be nothing new to you.
It will all be worth it. Your kids will have so much fun bonding with you. They will look forward to every kick, punch, block, kata, push up, choke defense, nunchaku spin, and bo staff strike.